I have been meaning to share our story for a long time….but for different reasons, I did not. I feel very comfortable sharing it at this time. Plus I hope to encourage others that might be going through a similar situation and just to encourage you in your faith! Our story is one of learning to TRUST in God and His timing and to have faith that He is for our good no matter what happens. I am still in awe of what God has done in our life! Praise Him!
Here is our story….
Tim and I are high school sweethearts! We started dating at the ripe old age of 15. We were each others first date, first kiss, first love….first everything! We never split apart and were married at almost 21 years old.
Out of all those years of dating and being newlyweds there was something that we never talked about….
That is not something that normally comes up in your newlywed conversations. Most people, including us, just assume you won’t have any trouble getting pregnant. You think that whenever you want to start your family…..it will be a piece of cake.
Well, boy were we in for a surprise.
This is how our journey began….
In January 2009 we had been married for over 4 years and decided we were ready to have a baby! A few of our close friends were also starting to have children….so it was going to be perfect! I stopped taking my birth control and we were going to see what happened. We knew my body probably had to get adjusted after being on birth control for several years, so we weren’t alarmed after the first few months went by. We also were not really trying….just stopped preventing. The summer came and we both decided maybe we ought to get serious and start really trying since nothing had happened. I studied up on exactly what “trying” meant and I was ready. And so begins months of temperature taking, tracking, vitamins, scheduled intimacy, examining your toilet paper like a detective and so on and so forth. It really wasn’t too bad for the first few months. It was kind of exciting. But as the months passed we began to feel very discouraged and the excitement wore off. Fear started creeping in. Our friends began announcing their pregnancies. People started asking us regularly about when we were going to have children.
Tim had to go to our family doctor for a cold in November 2009. While he was there he just thought he would tell him about our “trying” and if we should be worried. Our doctor said not to worry yet as it has only been a year and that is fairly normal. So, our doctor referred Tim to a specialist just to get checked out. We knew we had to start somewhere.
A few weeks later, Tim went to see a specialist, and we really didn’t think anything would be wrong. We just wanted to cover all our bases. Well, the doctor found something. He found that Tim had low motility and a varicocile. They told us the chances of getting pregnant with this issue was very minimal. How uncomfortable for Tim to go to this doctor to get checked out. I felt so bad that he had to go through all that. I will spare you the details.
The doctor gave us our options. But first he wanted me to go get checked before we did anything drastic. I made an appointment with my doctor as soon as she could get me in.
It’s January 2010 and we are about to begin one of the hardest years we will ever face.
To be continued….